imzadi22 ([info]imzadi22) wrote,
@ 2008-03-02 20:05:00
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Wedding Stress
So we got our invitations in the mail - yay!

And then we got down to counting our guests. After family and wedding party, each of us has 16 people to invite.

Sixteen.

Talk about getting the wind knocked out of your sails.

Talk about the very opposite of Yay!

I never wanted a big wedding. Now that I'm getting one anyway, it's not the vision of seas of nearest and dearest. It's family, wedding party, and 16 people. Not that those people aren't nearest and dearest, but srsly - there are several sets of third cousins I don't know very well who are on the list. And when you start penciling in everyone's kids and the space.

Cause that's what it is. We could feed and provide drinks for 50+ more, easy. But our space maxes out at 204. Like seriously maxes, no other possible way, we're seating 10 tops long and close as is.

Sixteen. People.

I started crying when we came to the final list and have felt utterly gutted all day. Especially since I assumed there'd be more room and I have to backtrack my way into letting people know they can't come. :(

Once we start getting some "No" Rsvps, we can start adding people back on.

Until then... sad faces all around.



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[info]mediavixen
2008-03-03 02:33 am UTC (link)
can't you tell Mom not to invite all those extra relatives?

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 03:02 am UTC (link)
Ha! Nope.

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[info]mediavixen
2008-03-03 04:35 am UTC (link)
why not? It's your wedding babycakes.

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 10:10 am UTC (link)
because in my reality and in my family, it just doesn't work that way.

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[info]mediavixen
2008-03-03 02:22 pm UTC (link)
well, how is the list for the smaller wedding?
how many people are coming to that one?

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 03:14 pm UTC (link)
Just enough of a budget for the wedding party. 25-30

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[info]mediavixen
2008-03-03 03:32 pm UTC (link)
how many bridesmaids, etc do you have?
are they in both weddings?

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 04:10 pm UTC (link)
yes, lots, there's no budging on anything until we start getting "no" responses on our RSVPs.

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[info]mediavixen
2008-03-03 04:24 pm UTC (link)
oh. sorry I wasn't asking about buding there..
I just really was wondering how bug your wedding party was.
For some reason I thought it was just like Ainjel and Rachel.
I don't know where my brains came up with that.

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 04:40 pm UTC (link)
oh -

my MOH - rachel, BMs - Lexa, AE, Lisa, Jr BMs - Tina, Jess, Flower girl - youngest niece, ring bearer - Dan's nephew. Then D's groomsmen and BM, and their collective spouses & kids. Our lasso sponsors and our coins sponsors. Mothers, Fathers, Step-folks, etc. I'll send you an email with a link of info. if you want...

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[info]mediavixen
2008-03-03 04:49 pm UTC (link)
yes!
email me info...
I feel so out-of-the-loop.
I know nothing about the wedding.

and I just realized how many typos were in my last comment
I must apologize

um...what's a "lasso sponsor" and a "coin sponsor"?
I have been shooting weddings for 10 years and have never heard of either...it that a Texas thing? A Mexican thing? or an English thing?

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 04:50 pm UTC (link)
a mexican thing.

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[info]mesawyou
2008-03-03 02:39 am UTC (link)
wow you got a big ole family. oops.

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 03:03 am UTC (link)
We're blessed in numbers, that's for sure...

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[info]mesawyou
2008-03-03 03:54 am UTC (link)
Yes. Yes indeed.

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[info]ainjel
2008-03-03 03:05 am UTC (link)
see, this is why i'm a bitch - i'd tell the third cousins to go buy their own dinner and invite my REAL family.

hence why i'm getting married in vegas with just the b-girls and my mom, IF i ever get married.

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[info]ainjel
2008-03-03 03:05 am UTC (link)
PS: i'm sorry :(

pps: i'm still invited, right?

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 03:17 am UTC (link)
duh. you're not wearing a dress in claret for nothin'!

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 03:16 am UTC (link)
You'll remember that I said this, "hence why i'm getting married in vegas with just the b-girls and my mom, IF i ever get married."

Like, for the last... what, 15 years?

Le grand ole sigh...

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[info]mediavixen
2008-03-03 03:35 am UTC (link)
um...I'm in the 16, right?

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[info]imzadi22
2008-03-03 10:12 am UTC (link)
yes of course, but solo, unfortunately. Hey - I'll be all the date you'll need! ;)

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[info]bettierage
2008-03-03 07:30 pm UTC (link)
You can never ever please everyone...well ok you can try to please Mom... that seems imperative, and yourself.

Your job is to show up smile and be the prettiest happiest girl for miles.
That should be easy.

Remember it is your day, you don't have to answer to anyone and it is a celebration of awesome love!

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[info]sethgreenlookslikeme.blogspot.com
2008-04-09 03:32 pm UTC (link)
Aren't "no" RSVPs just the bees' knees?

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